“Who do you talk to the most?”
Thanks for visiting my website. If you are new to the idea of counselling, or wishing to re-access counselling but feel uncertain please read on. I hope I am able to reassure you about taking the next step and hope you will get in touch.
Who do you talk to the most?
Your partner? Your best friend? Work mate? Brother? Sister? Your kids? Your parent(s)? Social media? The answer - for all of us - is ourselves. It's called our internal dialogue and it occupies 99% of all of our conversations.
This often comes as a surprise to many people. We are not taught this. We are rarely, if ever, given permission to look inside ourselves with curiosity and interest at how we are responding to the world around us. It is the conversations we have with ourselves that govern how we feel and think. You've been talking to yourself all of your life - even before you had words. Even as a small baby you were responding to your environment purely with feelings – the conversation had begun and it has continued ever since.
As we develop and grow our inner conversations grow increasingly sophisticated and familiar as our identity and sense of self develops. These familiar conversations, composed of our thoughts and feelings, don’t always feel good. We learn to respond in familiar ways to the world around us. We tell ourselves we are bad when certain things happen.
Counselling and psychotherapy can help you develop your awareness of the conversations you have with yourself; your relationship with yourself; the familiar thoughts and feelings you experience within yourself.
Nobody can make you feel bad. Bad things happen to all of us sometimes - but it is the resulting conversation you have inside yourself, how you manage your thoughts and feelings, that decides how you feel in response to bad events.
Psycho-therapeutic counselling can help and encourage a clearer understanding and awareness of what happens within you. Higher awareness leads to choice - once we have awareness of what happens inside us we can begin to influence the moment-to-moment thoughts, feelings and actions which shape our experience.
I work as both a one-to-one counsellor and also as a couples or relationship counsellor. In both cases I aim to work in a warm, friendly, gentle but also focussed way, guiding my clients on their journey at a pace which feels safe and steady. I realise there are a lot of us counsellors and therapists 'out there' and deciding which to work with is not easy or straightforward. I hope you get in touch so that at the very least we can discuss the issues affecting you. If you decide to go on to work with me my promise to you is that I will help you...
- understand why you are feeling the way you do.
- recognise why your home or work relationship(s) are not working as you want them to.
- see why you feel stuck.
- identify what you can do to change things and move forward to a place where you feel good.
Location, cost and availability…
I am based in a warm and comfortable counselling room located conveniently in Newcastle City Centre. I am available evenings Mon - Friday .
A standard counselling session lasts 60 minutes - cost varies from £40 depending on personal circumstances.
Please get in touch if you would like more information or to briefly discuss what is affecting you and how I may be able to help.